Brandon High-Conflict Divorce Attorney
In an ideal world, a divorce would be amicable, with both parties agreeing to the terms of the divorce and then moving on after the divorce has been finalized. This is not always the case, unfortunately. Divorces are major life events and as such, they are emotionally charged.
Divorces often result in anger, bitterness, revenge, spite, and many other emotions. It is not uncommon for one spouse to try to create drama and drag on the process for much longer than necessary.
High-conflict divorces are especially common when children are involved. Instead of treating their children as human beings with feelings, some parents treat them as possessions, as pawns in the divorce game. This causes children to become stressed out and to cope, they may lash out, do poorly in school, and possibly even abuse drugs and alcohol if they are teens.
High-conflict divorces can also involve assets, which is why many celebrity divorces tend to involve courtroom battles over money, alimony, vehicles, boats, and beach houses. In any case, it’s important to know the signs of a high-conflict divorce and how to move on peacefully, contact our experienced Brandon high-conflict divorce attorney.
Signs of a High-Conflict Divorce
Your divorce is more likely to be high conflict if your spouse exhibits any of these personality traits:
- Tends to blame others
- Has difficulty managing emotions
- Extreme behaviors
- Stuck in the past
- Not open to change
- Constantly attacking the other spouse’s behavior
- Narcissism and other personality disorders
What to Do in a High-Conflict Divorce
Spouses who want to start conflict have a need to be in control. When you keep engaging with them, you are feeding into their drama and need to exercise power over you. They don’t want you to move on without them. In their twisted mind, they would rather keep you in their life as an enemy so they can keep punishing you. While this kind of behavior can be frustrating, do not engage with them. Minimize contact and do what you can to expedite the legal process.
Here are some other tips to follow when dealing with a high-conflict divorce:
- Keep your kids out of the drama. Don’t badmouth the other parent or use your children as messengers.
- Don’t allow yourself to be bullied. Once your spouse crosses a line, end the conversation.
- Don’t play into your spouse’s emotional games. Don’t give in and don’t be played.
- Learn to say no. Stand up to your spouse without being intimidated.
- Don’t take it personally. Don’t feel as if you need to carry their baggage.
Contact a Brandon Divorce Attorney Today
A high-conflict divorce means war. It affects everyone involved and can last for many years, even once there is a final decree in place.
Is your spouse being combative? Are you frustrated trying to handle all the aspects of your divorce with someone who wants to constantly start drama? Let Stephanie Koether from Koether Law, P.A. step in and diffuse the situation. We will work hard to help you divorce with less stress. Contact our Brandon office and schedule a consultation today.